I have often thought how unprepared for motherhood we are when we give birth. There are articles and courses about what to pack for the hospital, what birth choices we have, and how to sterilise bottles.

But no one talks about the other stuff that counts – how difficult it is, how your marriage might suffer, how your self esteem will take a knock, how you might want your old life back, the postnatal depressions signs to watch out for.

I think we go into parenting with so little preparation and support. In fact, my gynae once told me that she feels sorry for new parents, simply because they are so ill prepared.

And once we’re battling sleep deprivation, cracked nipples and sadness, there is not a massive amount of support either – yes, there are friends, there’s social networking and there’s the postnatal depression support group (if you’ve even had time or clarity to notice the signs and seek help). But there aren’t many groups or avenues that can hold you up, give you a high five, or pass a tissue (or tequila) when you’re battling. Or even when you want your own time out.

I would love to see moms feeling less sad, worried and “alien” and wonder if there’s something I/we could do to change things. I’m really keen to get your take, so if you’re keen or able, please could you comment below:

So my questions to you:

– What do you wish you had have known about motherhood before becoming a mom

– If you got more “real facts” about parenting while pregnant, would you have paid attention?

– What messages should we be giving pregnant and new moms?

– Do you think there is more attention on shopping for baby, rather than tending to feelings, expectations?

Thanks a mil in advance

Tanya